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If you have had a break-up, you’re probably either trying to figure out how to get over the person, or ways to win back lost love. Neither is so easy, but most of the fall to one or the other, with only only a few in a position to move on quickly without pining or wishing things might be different. You should really think hard about the relationship and your ex before you do anything. Think about how things were and how they will be now. Try to be as equitable as you can. You might decide that the break-up really isn’t a bad idea.

If you make a decision to attempt and win back lost love, the 1st is to say sorry. You could think you have done this. You could have asserted you were sorry several times. But if your ex thought you were apologizing just to stop a break up, she’d not believe the apology was sincere.

If you were the one that did something that you need to say sorry for, apologize again. Now they’d believe the apology is sincere, because nothing hinges on it. If the relationship has ended, you won’t be claiming it only to put it but they are going to believe that you truly mean it. (And hopefully, you do. )

When your ex was the one that did something worth saying sorry for, then instead of attempt and get a sincere apology from them, forgive them. You may never forget, especially if your break-up was due to cheating, but you need to learn to forgive. Forgiving is much tougher for many of us than just announcing, “I forgive you,” though , so you might want to read a book or two on forgiveness and the way to actually mean it. If you want to win back lost love, this step will help you do it. And it can help stop issues in the future, too.

If you do succeed and you win back lost love, 3 or 6 or nine months into the just patched relationship, old issues might come up. If you haven’t forgiven the person for whatever was done to destroy up the relationship, then you may have a hard time getting past everything. Old injuries would be reopened and it’s likely that harmful things would be said.

But if you can actually excuse the person, then there will not be any necessity to rehash the past. While you are working on forgiving him or her for whatever occurred to cause the break up, forgive them for the break up itself and you can save yourself lots of grief down the road.

Also, to win back lost love, show the person the “you” they fell in love with, not the “you” that has been dumped. They were with you because you have certain qualities-kindness, thoughtfulness-not because you’re angry, jealous or hurt. While you might not be able to hide the hurt, concentrate on being the best “you” you can possibly be and you may win back lost love by reminding them why they loved you in the first place.